By Sam Ibraham
How many two letter words do you know that have any meaning at all?
Should these be words that you are concerned about, or even realize you should?
From the time we are born we are socialized into coming to know what is good and bad, wrong and right. From the earliest days you can remember the one word that continued to resonate in your mind was the dreaded “No”. It held with it consequences and the remembrance of gestures that reinforced it far beyond when the event took place. The word “No” is known to every human culture and language, the opposite of the affirmative and used to express many aspects of language. It is a word that you have likely heard from before you can remember and one that was used to defer poor behaviour, to condition, sensitize and even protect you against what you did not know.
Many of us have taken the word and grown up with it never allowing it to be redefined and as a result the “No” which is apart of our sub-conscience is nearly involuntarily spoken, acted upon and gestured. Although it has important implications in justifying right and wrong the issue of imbalance comes to affect our motivation to succeed and to grow. Learning is a product of many complex environmental and social processes which becomes embedded into our day-to-day functions. When we continue to conceptualize the philosophy of “No” and prevent it from affirmative action, and even calculated risk then we come to greatly disadvantage ourselves and never reach our full potential.
Some rules of order as I have come to reference them to help understand the impact of “No” on goal setting:
1. I often remind many who lack motivation and who consistently reference “No…i cannot”, they are asked to reflect on if they truly “cannot” or simply “will-not” as the two are very distinct.
2. The next step is to replace the two (letter word) for three (letter word). Try replacing the “No” for “Yes”. Often acknowledging the affirmative offers another choice and one more that was never available, which opens greater possibilities and potential.
3. Affirmative movement: Once “yes” is recognized it can often be the motivation needed to formulate goals from newly discovered options.
Whether your plan is to lose weight, commit to those new years resolutions, or work to that next promotion the “No” becomes a well known deterrent that must be realized and reasoned as we have done above. The understanding of the “No” and how it affects your life and aspirations is a significant step in understanding the possibilities to enhancing your health and wellness.
*the opinions expressed are those of the author and are not to be taken as specific action plans, or to replace medical or psychological therapies. The expressed opinions are not intended to replace advise given by a healthcare provider for a specific conditions or circumstance, nor should they be inferred. Consult your healthcare provider.
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